Coronavirus shattered my wedding but taught me a valuable lesson - EpicNews

Bridie Wilkins

Melanie Murphy is only one of 1000’s of brides-to-be whose weddings have been upended by the coronavirus pandemic. Between wedding dress shortages, flight cancellations and governmental recommendation to keep away from social gatherings, what is meant to be the happiest day of their lives is popping out to be one of the vital nerve-racking. Melanie skilled it first-hand. 

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Melanie and Thomas tied the knot at a registry workplace

“Our wedding was due to be a four-day celebration in Ireland, with family and friends coming from all over the country and in the UK,” she advised HELLO!. “We’d planned to do the official bit in a registry office on the Monday, before heading down to the venue on the Thursday. Then, the Irish government called upon us all to avoid social gatherings with alcohol and we decided we just couldn’t, in good conscience, go ahead with the big day. We didn’t want to be those people who cared more about a big, flashy day than the health of our nearest and dearest.” Melanie felt chargeable for her company and her and her now-husband Thomas agreed that cancelling celebrations and sticking to solely the preliminary registry workplace ceremony was the fitting factor to do. 


Melanie and Thomas had a easy ceremony

“I was utterly devastated,” stated Melanie. “With so much on the line it sparked a big anxiety attack. We’d been trying to juggle all of the planning with work and the stress really got to me.” 

And there actually was a lot on the road. Melanie and Thomas misplaced the deposits to the whole lot that they had paid for (although some supplied to switch to a future date), whereas the remaining was non-refundable. “I bought my dress in a closing down sale from a shop that no longer exists, the suit shop refused to offer refunds to anyone affected by coronavirus, and I’d already paid for my hair, manicure, pedicure, alcohol, videographer and more. Our honeymoon was booked but the hotel has voluntarily closed so that’s off the cards now, too.” she stated. “We might get money back from the venue and videographer, but it could take months as they are looking to claim on their insurance in order to pay us back.” 

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Melanie and Thomas exchanged rings at a registry workplace

Footing the invoice for 1000’s of kilos value of merchandise the couple will not even expertise is understandably upsetting, but Melanie adopted a humbling strategy to her information: neither her nor her household is contaminated by the coronavirus, and it is our family members which can be most necessary.

“My now-husband reassured me that we’d make the most of the registry office nuptials,” she stated. “And we ended up having such a lovely day. I wore a dress I’d ordered as a backup because my actual dress didn’t fit me on the day (I’m not one to diet!), my dad walked me down the aisle to music from Braveheart and we exchanged our rings. It was simple but so beautiful, I was delighted – even more so with our Chinese takeaway wedding dinner. My husband is all that really matters to me.” 


Melanie’s dad and mom have been witness to the couple’s ceremony

As for rescheduling, Melanie says, “It took so much out of us that we’re not keen to take the planning on again straight away, and I feel like the virus has tainted the excitement.” 

Her recommendation for any impending brides-to-be? “If possible, postpone. I’d hate for anyone to experience the stress and disappointment of having to cancel last minute. It’s a lot to ask of your guests, too – to expect them to come despite the risk. If you really just want to be married, go with a simple ceremony.” 

Photos: Simon Davis

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